Your words determine your reality!
Are you aware of the power of your words? They not only shape our communication, but also our thoughts and ultimately our reality. As a successful entrepreneur, it is therefore crucial to be conscious of the words you use in your daily life.
In the following, I will show you which words you should cut out of your vocabulary in order to grow your mindset and your business in a goal-oriented way.
In 2009, thanks to my coach at the time, I replaced this word with "and" - which results in a completely different dynamic! Because everything before the "but" is virtually null and void because of this word. This is not the case with "and", on the contrary.
The word "but" can act like a brake block. It relativises the previous statement and often creates resistance or doubt. Not so when you use the word "and". This little word has the amazing ability to create connections and promote positive energy. Instead of saying, "I want to grow, but it's hard," from now on say, "I want to grow and it's a challenge I accept." You will notice how your mindset, your actions and therefore your results change.
You are relativising your statement and creating an excuse. Yes, ouch!
"Actually" is a word used to express uncertainty or doubt. Instead of saying: "I actually wanted to start this project", you can formulate more confidently: "I will start this project".
In general, the subjunctive is a popular way of expressing non-commitment, which you should avoid if you want to achieve your goals.
By removing "actually" from your vocabulary, you take responsibility for your decisions and show determination.
Instead, use "may" or "want". In this way you again take leadership and responsibility for your actions.
The word "must" can create pressure and obligation. When you say: "I have to finish this project", it can feel as if you have no other choice. But you do, always!
Instead, you can say, "I want to complete this project" or "I choose to complete this project. These phrases give you control over your actions and encourage you to take responsibility.
4. Only / just
Mostly unconsciously, we use the word "only" or "just" to downplay our achievements or limit our goals. You're cutting off your energy every time.
For example, "I only have a small business" or "I'm just a beginner in this field." By eliminating "just" from your vocabulary, you acknowledge the value of your work and efforts.
Instead, say, "I have a successful small business" or "I am an aspiring expert in this field."
This "keeping it small" with language expresses an old belief of "I am not good enough". You may now dissolve this, because as I always say: You are the best!
5. That's ok / not for that
Open space for gratitude!
If you do a favour for someone, however small, and that person thanks you for it, accept that gratitude. Be happy about it and respond with "you're welcome". In this way you open space for gratitude and at the same time show that you make your decisions consciously.
6. Small small
As with point 4, if you keep yourself small by the way you express yourself, you downplay your ambitions and dreams. Instead of saying, "I am only taking small steps," you can proudly declare, "I am making steady progress on my path to success." Your language should reflect your confidence and determination.
Also, pseudo-modesty is extremely unattractive and can quickly become "fishing for compliments".
7. Never / always
The words "never" and "always" are often exaggerated and rarely correct. They can lead you into black and white thinking and prevent you from finding nuanced perspectives and solutions.
Instead of saying, "I will never be successful" or "I always make mistakes", try more realistic statements like, "I work to be successful" or "Sometimes I make mistakes and I learn from them."
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8. I'm just like that
By saying, "I'm just like that," you shield yourself from change and personal growth. It is important to recognise that you have the capacity to change and create your identity. Instead of limiting yourself to a static idea of yourself, say, "I'm working to improve in this area" or "I'm continually developing my skills."
Open yourself to change, only then can you and your business grow and be even more successful.
9. It has always been like this
Another classic that hinders your innovation and development. Just because something has been done a certain way in the past doesn't mean it can't be improved. Instead of relying on traditions or habits, be open to new ideas and approaches.
What you have done so far has led you to where you are now. If you want new results, you may do new things. Logical, isn't it?
10. I know
In my opinion, the most dangerous statement when it comes to growing.
It translates as closing yourself off to new information and perspectives. Instead of claiming that you already know everything, be curious and willing to learn from others. You can say, "I am curious to learn more about this" or "I am open to new insights."
Because even if you already know a lot about a topic, there is ALWAYS the possibility of getting a new impulse that will unexpectedly take you further. Stay open!
"Earning something" suggests that we have to do something to get something. It can be associated with feelings of guilt or self-esteem issues.
Instead of saying, "I don't deserve this" or "I have to earn it," acknowledge your worth and say, "I'm proud of what I've achieved" or "I am, so I'm just allowed to have it all."
If that activates you now, go with the phrase "I am enough." and let it sink.
To do or not to do, there is nothing in between that brings results.
The word "try" leaves room for doubt and uncertainty. Instead of saying, "I will try", be decisive and say, "I will do" or "I will implement." By eliminating the word "try" you show determination and commitment to your goals.
A warning signal of uncertainty and hesitation. Instead of saying, "Maybe I will do this", be clear in your intention and say, "I will do this" or "I plan to do this right now". Show determination and confidence in your decisions.
This is how you gain reliability for yourself and others.
14. Outdated proverbs
Like "He who says A must also say B." What nonsense! We can also simply acknowledge that A was wrong and change our minds.
These terse, outdated sayings are a) no longer relevant and b) they hinder us in our development.
Instead of blindly adopting them, observe your thoughts and statements mindfully, think critically about them and find more solution-oriented approaches and wisdom that better fit your new thinking.
Words that successful entrepreneurs have deleted from their vocabulary! #wordsbecomereality #businessmindset #justdoit
My tips for implementation
To integrate your new choice of words into your everyday life, I recommend:
- Develop awareness: Start by becoming aware of your own language and the words you use. Pay attention to the moments when you use the above words and ask yourself if there are better alternatives.
- Use affirmations: Create positive affirmations that include the new empowering words. For example, "I act decisively and consciously" or "I actively shape my reality."
- Surround yourself with like-minded people: seek the support of other successful women entrepreneurs who are also working on their word choices. You can encourage and inspire each other.
- Practice makes perfect: Changing your language takes practice and patience. Be patient with yourself and persevere in your efforts to choose your words consciously.
- Reflection and adjustment: Regularly check your progress and adjust your choice of words if necessary. Allow your language to evolve with your personal growth.
Remember that your words shape your reality. By consciously choosing positive and powerful words, you can improve your experiences and outcomes in your business and in your life. Be aware of your language, be decisive in your wording and thus shape the reality you desire. Successful women entrepreneurs know that choosing the right words is the key to your success.
I invite you to apply these insights in your life and use the power of your words to strengthen your business and your mindset.
Together we can choose the words that lead us on the path to success.